I have tried (not always successfully) to live by the Golden Rule “do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Well lately I have become aware of a different adage “people teach you how to treat them”. I’m having trouble reconciling these two sayings. I want to believe if I treat people decently, with kindness and dignity, they will do likewise. However, if you keep treating someone as you want to be treated, and you rarely get similar treatment in return, is it time for a re-evaluation? Isn’t the definition of insanity doing the same thing over and over expecting different results? “People teach you how to treat them” seems almost punitive to me, but maybe it’s more realistic for the world we live in. I think starting with “do unto others” is still right. However, if someone consistently treats you with only their self-interest at heart, maybe it’s time to learn and adjust your behavior accordingly and think about the fact that “people teach you how to treat them”.